Asking yourself WHY.

Great sermon in Church today by my friend John Allen.

He spoke on a topic I love…transformational life coaching and learning to ask the why behind the what.

Do you ever take the time to ask yourself why? Why do I follow this? Why am I challenged by this? Why am I doing this? These are all questions that can lead to an understanding of why things are the way they are. As a leadership and life coach myself, I ask the kind of open-ended questions that gets others to come aware of the why behind their what. Do you take the time to reflect and be honest with yourself about why you’re chasing the things you are chasing? Often times, I meet with leaders who are so laser focused on their goals, yet they don’t know why they’re chasing them. It’s something the world chose for them or were told to by societies’ standards. So much so, they fail to take the time to reflect on why they are pursuing them and the cost it has taken on them. This is why it’s so important to take the time to reflect and ask yourself or have a coach ask you those powerful questions. For instance, we all have our challenges, but why are we challenged? What makes it challenging and how are you going to overcome it? Do you speak about, explore it and develop a plan to overcome it? What about when it is a personal challenge that you face in your own mind?

Being asked these types of curious questions forces you to explore beneath the surface of your sub-conscious. Only you have the answers, however, its’ in the exploring of that search that creating learning more about yourself. There is no wrong answer when you ask yourself these kinds of questions because they invoke further exploration.

Simon Sinek wrote a great book titled, Start with Why. In it, he states, sinek2

“Instead of asking, “WHAT should we do to compete?” the questions must be asked, “WHY did we start doing WHAT we’re doing in the first place, and WHAT can we do to bring our cause to life considering all the technologies and market opportunities available today?”

Your why should never change either. Sinek adds, “Regardless of WHAT we do in our lives, our WHY—our driving purpose, cause or belief—never changes”.

From a spiritual viewpoint and the most important one, you should be asking yourself, why am I doing this? Understanding your why, brings you closer to who God has called you to be. It forces you to be honest with yourself to ask am I going down this path for my own personal choice or am I following where God is leading me. When we lose sight of our why, we allow society or others to define it. Whereas, when you are strong and secure in who Christ has called you to be, you’re on a much firmer foundation and are able to see the bigger picture a little more clearer.


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